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3 College Sophomore

Guys & Girls: We decent amounts of attractive people, athletic people, artsy people, etc, and everyone's at least a little nerdy.

Dating scene is AWFUL though. A lot of people opt to hook up with people from their frosh dorm then get really awkward about it afterwards. If you're looking for hookups, you should be able to find them at parties, a lot of people use Tinder because as a campus we seem to be pretty bad at picking other people up and Tinder removes some of the awkwardness. Some people meet a guy/girl their frosh year then date super seriously, but it seems that everyone has either a) sworn off relationships completely and only does hookups and is terrified of commitment or b) dates someone very seriously for most of the course of their college life.

The gay scene is equally bad if not worse. While everyone widely accepts homosexuality/most corners of the sexuality spectrum, most of the gays and lesbians opt to be a part of the lively LGBT community on campus. This is great, except that I have friends who report that its super weird to already know all of the guys on campus you could possibly ever sleep with here on a first-name basis, plus you know all their past hookups, plus its even harder to tread the line between "we had sex once and now we don't talk" and "we're going to be together for the rest of our lives" there since it tends towards the former. Basically, gay-ness is very accepted, but gay couples are seemingly extremely rare.

Tons of people report being lonely here, despite all the friendliness/outgoingness/social life it can be devastatingly isolating to live here at times.

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4 College Freshman

Guys & Girls: guys range from hot to nerdy but most are really nice. the hottest ones (athletes) generally spend so much time working out that you never really see them (thats a general college thing)

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1 College Senior

Guys & Girls: Pretentious. Not accepting of differences

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4 College Freshman

Guys & Girls: Outgoing, social, but everyone is secretly a nerd. Very athletic culture - even the non-athletes find being fit very important. Obviously a lot of geeky people, but for a school this academic, a surprising amount of "normal" people. Definitely a California laid-back culture, east-coasters are often surprised initially. Dating doesn't really happen, mostly just casual hook-ups early on and serious relationships by junior and senior year.

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3 College Freshman

Guys & Girls: The trend at Stanford is either casual hook-ups or very intense, we're going to get married relationships. There is very little middle ground, possibly because a lot of students choose not to put their time into a relationship when there is so much else to do.

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The level of attractiveness at Stanford is definitely up for debate. Many students feel that the Stanford population is reasonably good looking. However, a lot of students, particularly the male ones, will express the controversial opinion that at Stanford the guys are hot, and the girls are not. Engineering majors of both sexes have a particularly bad reputation for being awkward and unattractive. Dating at Stanford can be tricky, because many students feel the need to put so much time into their studies. If you come to Stanford as a slightly awkward overachiever and you don’t make the effort to meet girls or guys, you definitely won’t.

There is a lot of "going steady" and less casual dating, but there is also a hookup culture, about equal to the amount of steady relationships. People who are more into casual dating tend to join fraternities and sororities. Given the good weather and athletic culture of the school, there’s definitely a general concern for physical fitness. This often translates to some hard bodies, but the faces can’t quite stack up. After all, most students were nerds in high school, and not surprisingly, that ineptness carries over into higher education.

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Female Undergrads
Male Undergrads
Birth Control Available?
Birth control pills are subsidized by Vaden, the student health center. The SHPRC (Sexual Health Peer Resource Center) sells a wide array of contraceptives and offers students the chance to speak with a peer counselor to discuss options.
Best Places to Meet Guys & Girls
  1. Parties
  2. Extracurricular activities
  3. Sports/intramurals
  4. Classes
Best Places to Hook Up
  1. Parties on the Row
  2. Frat and sorority parties
  3. Building roofs
Social Scene
The social scene has as much variety as the range of people on campus. Academic students who spend a lot of time studying don't make much of an effort to date. Many students bemoan the lack of dating at Stanford and simultaneously spend the majority of their time in the library studying. The social students often join fraternities or sororities because they want a steady supply of parties and other gatherings. But even outside of Greek life, the Stanford residential system is quite conducive to meeting people because there are always group activities that get people out of their rooms. What people choose to make of these opportunities is really just a matter of personal priority.
Hookups or Relationships?
Stanford tends to have a good deal of hookups, but probably no more than at other colleges or universities. Hookups are more common than casual dating, for the most part, because of students' busy schedules and workloads. Most people at Stanford either hook up or, as students call it, "get married." Hooking up implies having some physical attraction and action with a person for a short period of time-nothing serious. "Getting married" implies that two people are in a very serious relationship and can't do anything without the other person. Unfortunately, these relationships sometimes end in seclusion because both people begin to ignore their other platonic friendships and lean on their significant other for everything.
Dress Code
The dress standard is very casual. For most of the year, students wear flip-flops and T-shirts. Students wake up and go right to class, wearing whatever. If you hang out with the co-op crowd, people might not even bother to wear shoes at all. However, Stanford students can look nice from time to time. If there's an official dance or formal social event, students will wear nice clothes for a refreshing change.

Student Polls

I would say girls on campus are    Based on 42 responses

Strongly disagree
Strongly agree
  • Attractive
  • Athletic
  • Creative/artsy
  • Friendly
  • Fun
  • Geeky
  • Hardworking
  • Into partying
  • Outgoing
  • Preppy
  • Religious
  • Smart
  • Stuck-up

I would say guys on campus are    Based on 41 responses

Strongly disagree
Strongly agree
  • Attractive
  • Athletic
  • Creative/artsy
  • Friendly
  • Fun
  • Geeky
  • Hardworking
  • Into partying
  • Outgoing
  • Preppy
  • Religious
  • Smart
  • Stuck-up

What kinds of relationships have you had since coming to school?    Based on 53 responses

  • 18% Casual dating at your school
  • 17% Exclusively dating someone at your school
  • 17% Random hook-up with someone at your school
  • 14% Long-term relationship with someone at your school
  • 11% Long-distance relationship
  • 11% None
  • 5% Long-term relationship with someone at a neighboring school
  • 3% Random hook-up with someone at a neighboring school
  • 1% Casual dating at a neighboring school
  • 1% Exclusively dating someone at a neighboring school

What are the best places to meet guys/girls?    Based on 11 responses

  • 19% Extracurricular activities
  • 19% Freshman Dorm
  • 19% Friends
  • 16% Classes
  • 16% Parties
  • 6% Sports/intramurals
  • 3% Lol

What one word or phrase best describes the typical student at this school?    Based on 11 responses

  • 55% Brilliant and humble
  • 18% Laid back
  • 18% Friendly but stressed
  • 9% Stressed

How accepting is LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) dating life on campus?    Based on 12 responses

  • 58% There are lots of openly-dating LGBT couples. It is widely accepted.
  • 33% There are some openly-dating LGBT couples. A lot of people accept it.
  • 8% There are almost no openly-dating LGBT couples. Most people don't accept it.
  • 0% You won't see any LGBT couples on campus. It is widely not accepted.

How would you rate the social scene on campus?    Based on 55 responses

  • 47% Very vibrant, with lots of popular activities available almost every day.
  • 47% Active, with a handful of popular activities.
  • 4% Quiet, with few popular activities and chances to meet new people.
  • 2% Lacking, with almost no interesting or popular activities.

What are the best ways to make friends at your school?    Based on 8 responses

  • 62% Freshman dorm, extracurriculars
  • 23% Varsity sports
  • 15% Greek life
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